Anniversaries, Sharing and feeling like a fraud | Belerion in my Mind

In case I haven?t mentioned.. this summer I went on holiday with both W & B (and very nice it was too). This is a bit of a change from the last couple of years where I have had the opportunity to spend a couple of weeks with B while W visits the smother; going away for our anniversary and separately going away with W for ours.
I find myself torn ? I adore exploring places and spending time away from daily life with my loves, I would spend more time with both of them together if I could; but on the other hand each of them deserve time on their own, time especially for them. I know that W particularly needs the sense of things that are unique to us as a couple and I know that B especially values nights he & I spend together since they are rare.
So how do I make each of our anniveraries special, make everyone feel appreciated, and still get to enjoy time together?

On the subject of anniversaries?- anyone ever feel like they are gilding the lily? I celebrate a minimum of 3/year. W & I celebrate our 1st handfasting (Oct 31st ? will be 10yrs this one coming) And our legal commitment (May 1st ? 3yrs just gone). And of course I try to celebrate a date with B too; we chose Aug 21st as an arbitrary we-started-our-relationship-on-this-day date (though it would be fair to say any time in the fortnight before or after that might be a plausible suggestion) and this year makes 4. I also tease him that our ?wedding? date is my birthday the following year on the basis it was the date his former fiancee wanted to get married and I rescued him from that foolishness?
Thats a lot of special days for each other and time for hols. But how can you ask your friends to shell out for cards on that many dates or even remember?

So if anniversaries feel like an unnecessary encumberance for one?s mono/straight friends how about the fact that I can?t help feeling like a fraud for not being available. [Incidentally, I do understand that these ideas are not related for most people]. Point being: How is it possible for me to whinge about lack of ?poly? awareness when I don?t fall into general categories of being open to more relationships? I know that poly doesn?t have to mean sleeping around ? but most blogs and websites are dedicated to those looking for more partners. I have to say that though I knew (and admitted) I couldn?t commit to exclusivity? I never looked for anyone. I never meant to fall in love with either one of my partners (in fact in both cases I was avoiding commitment for various reasons) and I can?t imagine having time or energy for anyone else. In that sense I don?t feel ?poly?: I?m not about openness any more than anything else and I am not defined sexually by the fact I happen to love 2 people (or that they are 2 different genders) ? I don?t have a lovestyle, I just love these people. I?m not bisexual or polyamorous ? I am in love with W & B, I am w/b-sexual.

Its not true of course there is enough of me to have a political rant, to say we should be allowed to make a family and stand up for just being us. But that dont feel internet.
So Happy Anniversary B my love and good luck to all of us and I hope being an example is enough.

Source: http://kollellbyghan.wordpress.com/2012/09/01/anniversaries-sharing-and-feeling-like-a-fraud/

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